So today my mother in law comes home and tells me that she was thinking of me while she was at work. This perks my interest as i know she cares deeply about me. So, as I should have, I ask her what about. She proceeds to tell me that she was thinking about me and fitness. That she wants to see me get healthy and fit and in shape before I have another child. I can understand this, and at face value it seems harmless. However, she is constantly saying something about my weight. HELLO!!!!! I know I'm big damn it. Do I need it thrown my face daily???we've talked about it before. I've told her my intentions of losing weight, even told her my goal weight. You know what she tells me??? OH MY GOODNESS!!! I could never imagine being 175. When I was pregnant with Mike (my husband) I got up to 180 and I thought I was going to explode. Well you know what??? That's freaking awesome. Thanks for the damn confidence that I'll be healthier. I can't be 130lbs. I just can't. I wasn't meant to be. I've been there before and I looked sick and like I was going to die. It's so frustrating and I feel like I can't say anything to her about it because her intentions are good. I need her support and not criticism. How do I do it nicely??? I'm at the end of my rope with trying to be nice. I just had kid #3. The weight is not going to just fall off, and if you think it is you're sadly mistaken and you're being hurtful.
End rant. :(
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Christina, I will totally be there for you as much as I can during this journey. Whenever you need words of encouragement, a push to get your started, or someone to just listen to you I'll be there. I know that 2009 will be the year for you and you'll be looking super fly for 2010!
ReplyDeleteNo need to comment nicely or rudely but a comment none the less is good. Say whats on your mind or you will forever wish you would have said something. Plus, this keeps someone with good intentions from inadvertently hurting your feelings because they think your ok with what they are saying. As far as the baby weight, I have no prob with it. Trust me, the man who wants to spend the rest of his earthly life with you wants you to be healthy but not at the expense of your feelings. I can't have you kicking the bucket before I do. I would I find anything or know where I'm going without you. I want you to also do it for you. Love you wifey!!
ReplyDeletethe second one is from me honey. guess you were logged on my puter. I'm here to support. Love ya!!!
ReplyDeleteWell, I'm glad your jumping on the bandwaggon. I think more people should follow. As for me, I've kind of hit a roadblock. The holidays got me down, and I'm going to have to start almost from the beginning. My insurance from work is starting to cover weight loss programs that are being supervised under docs, so I have an appt with one on Jan 20. The only thing is, is that the dr that I will be seeing uses prescription appetite suppressants (short term). Which is probably what I need because the reason I always fail is because I'm always hungry.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, whatever advice I receive from this dr, I will make sure I post on my blog. They did send me a packet with some information, and I will post it on my blog later today.
Good luck and I wish you all the best. And here's to supportive husbands who will take us anyway they can get us. :)